Problem with exchange student?
We are having a problem (already, yes) with our exchange student from Japan. We have hosted s few students, all girls, from Germany, Sweden, and Taiwan. All our previous host daughters were wonderful and we keep in touch with them all. Now our daughter from Japan is causing a bit of trouble for us. - first she is very, very shy. I understand her being shy at first but it's been a month we've had her now and she barely says more than a sentence or two a day at meals and it's only when we ask her questions. We have tried avoiding yes/no questions because shell just nod/shake her head. She had very high english scores in japan so that is not the issue here. - We are a Christian family and have told her we want her attending church with us and not openly displaying her Buddhist shrines. She has feigned sickness or sleepiness (citing jetlag) for not joining us at mass and I found my daughter looking at her shrines. - she has made Japanese food at least 1-2 times a week since she's come here, we told her that she's supposed to experience USA life. Not Japanese in the USA. - she constantly texts the Japanese exchange student she came over with (this girl is in Massachusetts while we are in Mississippi). She alwas talks about boston/new York where this girl has been. Well sorry our state is so boring for you!!;; that made us pretty upset. You know us southerners are proud. Anyways how do you think we should address these issues? We have a daughter the same age and she hasn't even wanted to go out with my daughter to the mall or anything! Mu daughter is starting to think this girl hates her. She's here full year so we'd like to resolve the issues.
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1 :
It's pretty obvious, she's home sick! Give her a break, maybe she'd open up with you if you allowed her to feel more at home and stop pushing your religion onto her. Do some things she likes, and maybe that will get her to trust you some more and eventually she might want to do stuff with you and your family.
2 :
Ok, I'm from the south too so I understand people not accepting hospitality. It's weird for other people though to be as nice as us. As for the shrine, this is the US. Freedom of religion, she knows that and this may be the root of many of your problems with her. Don't be an authority forcing down her religion. That's not the best way to get to know someone. Distorting people religions is a very strong thing around the rest of the world, as they all have to protect their faiths. As for her interest in other places, she is from a foreign country, she has heard magic stories. She is interested in the places she dreamed about, not suburbia, or home life. As for your daughter, have her be an out from you. She is probably afraid of your daughter because anything she does around her she may fear will be reported to you. As for food, allow her to cook for you or something so you guys can get to know each other better. Don't be mad at her for wanting food from her country.
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Buddhist girls get really nervous about going to Catholic Churches. You must be really nervous about having those Buddhist shrines in your home. You shouldn't permit anything abominable like that.
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